This year, I’m not so sure as I’ll probably just spend a quiet day at home watching football and zombies – Michael Kwan
My friend Michael Kwan celebrated his birthday Sunday. The quote above is from his own Sunday Snippet post on his blog, Beyond the Rhetoric. Reading that quote made me think about the time I have known Michael.
Years ago when I started commenting on BTR, Michael was all Social Media and single. He was very much into all the tech stuff, going on trips for his freelance work and other writing gigs. As the years went by, the travel has slowed down, but not his outgoing social side. Food porn, and what not close to home. I chalk that up to his longtime relationship with his now wife and settling into his “30’s”. He is correct in that he is not middle aged, nor is he a whipped snapper. He’s become comfortable.
Now, he is a father, husband and self employed. That means he gets to see that beautiful little girl as much as possible. I admire his choice today and respect him for how he has grown.
I have 3 children ages 9, 5 and 2. I love my children very much. I drive them around with me all the time. I don’t leave them in the car when I exit the vehicle.
I have an extremely hard time reading about a child that has died in a car. Either left by a parent who forgot their child was in the back seat or one that wanted to go shopping or drinking and thought they could just leave the child behind. I find it hard to read or listen because I love my children so much and can not imagine the fear of that child who cannot take care of themselves and gives their parent unconditional love and trust.
What I don’t understand about a parent is how you can even do that? How can you get out of the car and not know your child is in the back seat? How can you forget? It’s your child, you put them in the car seat and you forgot them by the time you got where you were going? Whatever you are doing or wherever you are going is not as important as your child. Even when my kids are not in the car I always check my back seat when I get out. It’s habit, something I do as a parent for the safety of my children.
If you have children, nothing is more important than their well being. Read that again, nothing is more important than your children. Not your job, not that football game, not mowing the lawn, not that girls night out, not that poker game with the guys.
So the NFL rates domestic abuse lower on the scale of morally wrong than PED’s, DUI, or drug abuse. How on earth is the NFL and Paul Goodell making these decisions? Really Mr. Goodell? It’s okay to knock out your girlfriend and get just two games off? That penalty is like saying go to your room. All the toys are in the closet, in the room, go ahead close the door and come out in two hours. You have taught nothing to any one, not Ray Rice, not any other NFL player or staff that it is wrong to hit a spouse, or a women.
ESPN was harder on Stephen A. Smith for just being an idiot for expressing himself by saying women should look at what they do that could cause abuse. Smith just said something and he was suspended for a week. Ray Rice hit his girlfriend, knocked her out and there is video of him dragging her out of the elevator while she was out cold. Two games for that? Really Mr. Goodell you think that getting in a fight or doing PED’s or taking drugs is worse than hitting another human being with the intent to hurt them?